Learning to embrace your flaws may sound like an impossible task. However for the sake of your self love journey you owe it to yourself to try. So as part of the #wellbeingwednesday blog post series this post aims to look at how you can learn to love and embrace your flaws and why you should.
I look at it this way, personal development and self growth is important to living your best life. We should all make the effort to improve and expand our outlook. Nevertheless there is no doubt that it can be a daunting task, like ripping a plaster off a wound, it can be painful.
When you know that there are so many aspects of yourself that you want to work on it can feel overwhelming and a little depressing. When we make time for self reflection it often highlights our imperfections and exposes aspects of ourselves we may not like.
With that in mind, I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to fix every little thing you feel is a flaw to you. Do you know why? Because it’s impossible, it’s excess pressure that you just don’t need and above all your blemishes are a part of your character.
So how can you work on personal development if you don’t try to fix all your flaws?
Here’s the thing, what you may consider to be an imperfection I may not, and visa versa. Who decides what a flaw in someone is anyway?
Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t want to make changes to yourself whether they be physical, mental or material changes. Change is good, in fact it’s great! But it has to come down to why you want to make those changes.
In order to embrace your flaws you need to really think about the why? Do your flaws negatively impact your life? Or are they flaws and quirks that other people want you to change?
There Is No Such Thing As Perfect
The Goal Is Progress Not Perfection
Kathy Freston
If you constantly find yourself too wrapped up in your imperfections, it could be getting in the way of you living a happy, fulfilled life.
Like I said earlier, of course change is important and you should aim to make progress where you feel necessary but you have to be realistic. Where possible you have to accept who you are and be comfortable with who you are. Self love is something that you owe to yourself and that means learning to embrace your flaws.
Each of us has imperfections. However, many fight against their flaws; harshly criticizing themselves for not being perfect. There is a lot of pressure in society today to be a perfect person. Unfortunately, this just isn’t possible so most end up feeling like a failure or develop feelings of self-hatred.
If you want to learn to love yourself, embracing your imperfections is key. Here, we’ll look at why it’s important to embrace your flaws and the benefits it can deliver.
Your Positive Imperfections
When you start to embrace your flaws, you’ll start to see them more positively. Believe it or not, there are some positives to imperfections. For example, if you suffer with anxiety, you may beat yourself up for not being able to do certain things that come easy to others. However, a positive of anxiety is that it often makes you more empathetic. That is a great trait to have in an often-cruel world.
Flaws are also considered more attractive than you might realize. So, start to look for the positives in your flaws and realize that everyone has them.
Feel Free When You Embrace Your Flaws
When you are so caught up on your imperfections, it can make you feel trapped under constant pressure. By embracing them, it helps to set you free. Nothing is more freeing than living your life without the constant weight of your own expectations. Once you accept your flaws, you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted.
For the most part, it’s about going with the flow of life more and learning to let go. Once you accept that it’s ok to not tick all the boxes and that it’s ok not be who you think your expected to be then life will become so much more pleasurable for you.
Focus on Who You Are
When you are so focused on your imperfections, it can stop you being who you truly are. It causes you to chase an ideal that you aren’t ever going to live up to. However, when you let go and start to embrace your flaws, your authentic self will start to shine through.
So, if you feel like you have lost who you wanted to be, start letting go of your need to be perfect. The world needs you to be the real you, leave the fake behind.
Living Healthier
Living your life constantly focused on your imperfections isn’t healthy. It impacts your perspective on things, causing you to make choices you wouldn’t necessarily make if you weren’t so caught up on your flaws.
Constantly stressing over the things that you are not, can actually have a negative impact on your health. If anything, focusing on what you don’t want can attract more of unwanted traits and experiences into your life. So, if you want to improve your overall health and wellbeing, you’ll want to start embracing your imperfections.
These are just some of the reasons why you need to learn to embrace your flaws. While it may be difficult, with practice you can start to think more positively about your imperfections. Remember, nobody in life is perfect, not even you and you are never going to be. The sooner you accept this and know that it’s OK, the better your life will become.
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