Self-love can often seem like tough love. Practising self-love can seem unnatural and self-indulgent and you may face many obstacles on your journey. Self-love obstacles can hinder your progress, so it’s time to get prepared.

Self-love is important and thats a fact! If you can’t love and appreciate yourself then what message are you sending out into the world?

Forewarned is forearmed, so let’s look at some common self-love obstacles you may come accross.

Crush Your Self-Love Obstacles


You aren’t surrounded by positive, healthy relationships

A major obstacle to self-love is toxic people. If you are surrounded by people who drain your energy and have a negative outlook, you’re going to struggle to practice self-love. 

Unfortunately there are just some people who don’t like to see others progress in life. They feel threatened by ambition and confidence in others, instead of feeling inspired.

Try to surround yourself with positive, healthy relationships. While all relationships go through hard times, for the most part they should lift you up and make you feel positively about yourself.

So, if you have relationships which cause you more misery than happiness, now is the time to start taking a step back and focusing on healthier, happier relationships. After all, you’ll struggle to love yourself if you are surrounded by people who make you feel bad.

Feelings of guilt and selfishness

Another big barrier to practicing self-love is feelings of guilt and selfishness. It is common to feel like self-love is selfish. This can lead to feelings of guilt when you attempt to focus more on yourself.

You need to understand the importance of self-love. It isn’t just a luxury, it’s a necessity for your health and wellbeing. It certainly isn’t selfish so you absolutely shouldn’t feel guilty for trying to love yourself more. 

The better you take care of yourself, the more energy you will have for others. The people in your life will recieve the best version of you rather than the run down, unforfilled version.

Needing to be perfect

Perfectionism is a major obstacle to self-love. While a little perfectionism can be a good thing sometimes, it can also lead to disappointment, frustration, and unhappiness. 

When you feel like everything must be perfect, you aren’t going to be happy when you fall short. It is important to remember that you are not a robot. Therefore mistakes in life are inevitable.

So, try and let go of your need to be perfect. Understand what draws your perfectionism and identify your triggers. Remember, nobody is perfect, and that is okay!

Not understanding how to love yourself

Finally, another barrier is not understanding how to love yourself. Many people don’t fully understand what self-love means. They mistakenly think it is about being self-indulgant, selfish and needy. This simply isn’t true!

Self-love isn’t just about treating yourself to a bubble bath; it is about making sure you are fulfilling your needs. It’s about taking the time to listen to your mind and body and living a fulfiling life.

Working on your mindset, being proactive with your goals and dreams and living your best life.

These are just some of the common obstacles to self-love you need to be aware of. By being aware, you’ll be able to figure out how to overcome them if they do arise. Finding people, you trust and who build you up is a big part of being able to practice self-love. However, don’t forget to be your own personal cheerleader too. 

As always, I love to hear your thoughts. Please share your self-love advise in the comments section below.

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